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Interview with A Top Tier Dating Coach: James Preece



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by Vic Corts | 8:21 a.m. | July 29th 2016

If we are asked what the most important thing in life is, dating and relationships are going to be the answer for so many people. It is human nature to seek relationships with others. Some may do it for fun and some do it to create a new life.

There are not many people in the world who can give better dating advice than top tier dating coaches. They are professionals possessing masterful skill in dating and flirting with all types of people. Not just that, they are best at interpersonal skills as well as philosophy and sociology.

Because of their knowledge, these dating coaches are well-known for bringing a successful dating life to their clients. Our dating coach for today's interview is James Preech. He is one of the UK's leading Dating Experts and Dating Coaches. James has been working in the industry for over a decade and is involved in a wide variety of different areas, such as personal dating coaching, Online Dating, singles events, matchmaking and consulting for many dating companies.

James Preece is a regularly featured expert in top UK and international media: such as the Independent, Cosmopolitan, OK Magazine, Men’s Health, Match.com, The Sun, Ann Summers and often appears on radio and television. In addition, he has clients all over the world and is the author of 6 best-selling dating books, including the Amazon Number One best seller "I will Make You Click!"

You can find out more about him via his website: www.jamespreece.com

Let's hear what he has to say about the life of a dating coach.

What life experience made you decide that you would like to be a dating coach?

James PreeceI used be an actor years ago and helped out hosting singles parties as a way to make extra money. I found I was great at bringing people together and decided to make it a full time career. The events were also a good way to get dates for myself, so I was able to get lots of dating experience at the same time!

What was your dating life like before you became a dating coach?

I dated hundreds of women before I became a dating coach. It was frustrating as I never thought I'd find someone I truly clicked with. However, all that changed when I met my wife. I knew she was the one almost straight away and we've been together for almost nine years now. Once we were together I knew I had to teach everything I knew to others, so I could help them too.

How does being a dating coach affect your own love life? Do you apply the same rules and matching techniques to your own dating habits?

I'm lucky to have a very trusty and understanding wife! I have to be on call for my clients all through the day and night in case they need me. Sometimes, it's almost as if I'm going out on the dates with them. I'm always learning new things from all my clients, so I do try and remember them for my own relationship.

If I tell a client that they should be doing something then I have to make sure it's something I'd be equally happy to do.

What is the most important thing when giving relationship advice to your client?

I think it's important that while I'm always friendly and respectful, they are paying me to tell them the truth. If they have unrealistic expectations or are doing something completely wrong, they I have to put them straight. I think deep down they know what has to be done anyway, but hearing if from a dating expert makes the difference. Once we've worked through this then they will make dramatic progress.

What is the most asked question from your client? And why?

I Will Make You Click by James Preece

"Where are all the decent men/women hiding?" Despite having so many options, many professional singles are still struggling to meet each other. They might be getting dates, but not with the sort of people they really want to end up with. This can lead to confusion and frustration.

Do you have some requirements for your clients?

I only work with clients who are will to take on board my suggestions and do what I suggest. The good thing is most people only come to me once they've already made the decision to get some help. As long as they agree to follow the plan I put together for them, then we will work together until they see results.

Is there a universal strategy that works for all dating advices?

Every person is different, so I have to plan a new strategy for each person. Of course there are many things that I suggest to clients, such as booking some singles events or joining an online dating site. However, everyone has their own unique dating and life experiences so I have to create something special for each one.

Is there a specific trait that prevents someone from having a successful relationship?

Lack of confidence can seriously damage your chances of having a happy relationship. Unfortunately, this can happen after a bad break up or rejection. The important thing to remember is that everyone is a little shy – but some people can hide it better. I often help people build their confidence and realise how much they have to offer a potential partner.

How have apps such as Tinder and online dating sites changed the way of dating?

They have changed dating completely – both in a good way and also bad too. They have opened up massive opportunities and make it easier than ever to find a partner quickly. The downside is that I believe it's made many singles fussier and more confused that ever. They are spoilt for choice when it comes to choosing both a site/app and when they are looking for a match.

They don't feel they need to invest as much time getting to know someone as there will always be another person ready to meet. This means they are missing out as they aren't giving potential partners long enough to get to know each other.

If there’s one piece of advice you’d have for singles who are looking for a partner, what would it be?

You have to like yourself before you can convince anyone else to like you back. Happiness, confidence and fulfilled lives are attractive qualities and once you have those then you'll find a partner quickly. So work on yourself to make sure you are having a great time and feeling your best. This might mean hitting the gym, buying a new wardrobe or learning some new skills.

If you feel you would like some extra help, then you should definitely seek out a dating coach too!

Love and Herpes— My Experience With Online Dating and STDs



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by Vic Corts | 4:31 p.m. | July 22nd 2016

Dating in the era of “swipe left” is hard enough as it is without having to worry about STDs. Yeah, we were all taught the risks of sexually transmitted diseases in health class back in eighth grade, but how many of us were actually paying attention at the time? (I’m not even sure I fully understood what sex was back then, if we’re being honest.) Or maybe, like me, you just assumed that the only people who had STDs were promiscuous, unintelligent, careless or on drugs. Smart people didn’t get STDs. People who went to college and paid their bills on time and took care of themselves didn’t get STDs. Boy, was I wrong.

What are STDs?

Before we get into the details of how I ended up with an STD— me, the responsible one, the one that always looked twice before crossing the street and never left home without hand sanitizer, let’s do a quick refresher course on STDs. STDs, or sexually transmitted diseases, are a category of infections diseases that spread from person to person through sexual contact. There are some of the most common contagious diseases on the planet, with over 20 million new cases popping up each and every year. Common STDs you’ve probably heard about are chlamydia, genital herpes, gonorrhea and HIV/AIDs just to name a few. Severity it STDs range from those that are cured with a simple antibiotics prescription, to those that are incurable and have lifelong symptoms, to those that are incurable and cause death. Yes, death. So they’re no joke, and you really have to be careful and protect yourself if you want to be safe.

Genital Herpes — Initial Visits to Physicians’ Offices, United States, 1966–2013

Genital herpes—Initial visits to physicians’ offices: United States, 1966–2013 statistics from cdc.gov

Meeting Mr. Right

Fast forward to April the year I turned 26. I had graduated college, gotten a great entry-level job, had my own apartment and generally had my life together. The only thing missing was a significant other. So I ventured into the world on online dating, not really expecting much, but hoping to find Mr. Right nonetheless. And to my utter surprise, I found him after only having to endure three dates with completely awful Mr. Wrongs. It was magic. It was a miracle. It was perfect— until suddenly it wasn’t. About three months into the relationship, I developed an extremely painful rash “down there.” These harsh, red, irritated, inflamed chicken pox-like spots appeared with a vengeance. They were itchy. They were painful. It hurt when I moved. It hurt when I peed. I knew I was in trouble.

Getting Diagnosed

In a panic, I booked an appointment with my gynecologist. What was wrong with me? Where did these spots come from? If I had been smart, I’d have realized what was going on right away. But like i said, I considered myself to be smart, responsible, careful. The thought that I had an STD never even crossed my mind. So when the doctor declared I had genital herpes, I almost fell off my chair. Herpes? Genital herpes? How on earth did I have herpes? I had actually had a long, intense, awkward conversation with Mr. Right about his health the first time he proposed having sex without a condom. I blatantly refused until he promised me up and down, backwards and forwards that he was clean.

And now here I was, sitting in a flimsy dressing gown on a table covered in crinkly paper facing the diagnosis of genital herpes. What was going through my mind? For starters, murder. I wanted to kill Mr. Right. He had lied to me about his STD. He had turned me from a responsible upstanding woman into trashy damaged goods overnight. He was going to pay.

?broken flowers - from Hartwig HKD, flickr.com

"He had turned me from a responsible upstanding woman into trashy damaged goods overnight"

The Confrontation

I had it all planned out in my head. I was going to call him up and ask him to come over to my place as calmly as possible. Then I was going to play nice when he walked in so that he suspected nothing. Then I was going to launch my attack. What really happened is I got him on the phone and immediately burst into tears. I loved this man. I was mad at him, yes, but I also wanted his support. I was blubbering so hard, I couldn’t even manage full sentences. He was on his way to my place before I hung up the phone.

The murderous confrontation I imagined never happened. Instead, he calmly and rationally listened to me talk about my day at the doctor’s office. He was shocked, upset and apologetic as I accused him of lying to me, of infecting me with a nasty STD, of wanting to have sex without a condom when he knew perfectly well what was going to happen. He was so calm. Why wasn’t he embarrassed? Why wasn’t he ashamed? Why was he just sitting there comforting me with a look of shock on his face instead of running for the hills? Didn’t he know we were through? Didn’t he know I was about to murder him?

His Confession

I spent that entire night waiting for his confession so that I could yell, scream, throw a fit, maybe even throw a punch. But as it turned out, he had no more idea what was going on than I did. It took multiple trips to the doctor’s office to discover that Mr. Right is somewhat of an anomaly. He doesn’t have genital herpes himself in the sense that he experiences the symptoms of the disease, but he’s a carrier for genital herpes and can pass it on to others. Being a fine, upstanding, responsible guy himself (probably why I had fallen head over heels for him), I was the first girl he had had unprotected sex with. He didn’t know to warn me. He didn’t know he was putting my health in danger. He didn’t know he had an STD.

confession - image taken from Mister G.C., flickr.com

"He didn’t know to warn me. He didn’t know he was putting my health in danger. He didn’t know he had an STD"

The Aftermath

I wish I could say his ignorance made it easier for us to deal with the situation; unfortunately, I felt like damaged goods, and he felt guilty. And in a cruel twist of fate, we had to be more careful than even when having sex. Because even though he gave the disease to me initially, it was actually possible for me to give it back to him in a way that would cause him to finally experience symptoms. So that meant condoms, condoms and more condoms, even after we got engaged— even after we got married. Having a partner with an STD, particularly an incurable one like genital herpes, is a struggle. There’s no impromptu sex. If we’re out somewhere and there’s no condom, it’s not going to happen. I can’t risk spreading my STD back to him. I won’t let it happen. I’ve long since gotten over my shame and guilt. I’ve long since gotten over the idea that only sluts or whores get STDs. And even though I have this incurable, permanent condition that flares up from time to time, I feel lucky. I found Mr. Right. I found someone that was willing to deal with what happened head on.

Once we sorted through the details and realized I was the one that could spread the STD back to him, he was supportive and understanding. He was never grossed out, never scared to get intimate with me. But I can only imagine that if we hadn’t been nearly engaged at the time that this all happened that it might have been a completely different situation.

Safe Sex Matters

It had never occurred to me that it was possible to get an STD, and an incurable one at that, if you followed the rules and asked all the right questions. I know my story isn’t the norm— being an asymptomatic carrier for genital herpes is extremely rare. And I got the happy ending with Mr. Right, the white dress, picket fences and all that, just with a slight caveat. I’d do it all again, too, if I had the chance. Just know how important it is to be safe in today’s world. Ask your partner about their sexual history and sexual health. If possible, take your partner to do STD testing. It’s going to be an uncomfortable conversation. It’s going to be awkward. But if it means you can avoid contracting a devastating STD, it’s worth it. If the guy bolts because you asked him a few personal questions, he isn’t worth it in the long run. And if you already have an STD and are looking for love, know that the right guy is out there and that you can be safe.

How to Know if You Have an STD video from plannedparenthood.org

I’ve been with Mr. Right for ten years now, and he still only carries herpes asymptomatically. It’s possible. The right person, the one that loves you and wants to be with you, will deal with the inconveniences and will make the exceptions to be safe. If Mr. Right had told known to tell me about his condition, I still would have been with him. I would have made the sacrifices needed to stay with him and stay safe. The right guy will. Wait for him. Remember, you can always “swipe left.

Love the article? Do not forget to read "The Love of My Life Has Manic Depressions" as well. It is a life experience from a women who marry a guy with Manic Depression.

Interview with A Top Tier Dating Coach: Sheri Maass



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by Vic Corts | 10:48 a.m. | July 15th 2016

If we are asked what the most important thing in life is, dating and relationships are going to be the answer for so many people. It is human nature to seek relationships with others. Some may do it for fun and some do it to create a new life.

There are not many people in the world who can give better dating advice than top tier dating coaches. They are professionals possessing masterful skill in dating and flirting with all types of people. Not just that, they are best at interpersonal skills as well as philosophy and sociology.

Because of their knowledge, these dating coaches are well-known for bringing a successful dating life to their clients. Our dating coach for today's interview is Sheri Maass, an experienced dating coach who received various dating coach certifications as well as a Master Practitioner Certification in the Energy Leadership Index from iPEC. She has been providing relationship success to her clients based on her over 25 years of personal relationship experience and eight years of being a professional dating coach.

Sheri is also the founder and director of Women’s Networking group in Milwaukee and Madison called “Professional Women of Wisconsin Networking” with thousands and growing numbers of women members.

Let's hear what she has to say about the life of a dating coach.

What life experience made you decide that you would like to be a dating coach?

I’ve known since I was very young that this is what I was meant to do. Even as a young girl, classmates would come to me at recess to talk about their crushes and ask for advice and guidance with the little boys chasing them around the playground. It never really felt like a decision – more like a purpose.

What was your dating life like before you became a dating coach?

My dating life was very active. I learned a lot about myself, about what I want/need and about dating in general. It was one of the most fun and frustrating times in my life but the education through that experience is partially why I am so good at what I do. I called myself a “serial dater”- having one date after the other in order to learn more about behaviours, attraction, communication and connection. By the end of it all I was an expert before I even began my professional training.

How does being a dating coach affect your own love life? Do you apply the same rules and matching techniques to your own dating habits?

Sheri and her husbandAs a love coach, my husband is very aware of the techniques I use and we both actively participate in applying everything I teach to my clients into our own relationship. I believe it is important to always “date” your significant other – no matter how long you’ve been together.

What is the most important thing when giving relationship advice to your client?

The most important thing is to really know my clients; who they are, their likes and dislikes and what their needs and goals are. I always make sure to customize my coaching to fit each client. What may work for one may be a disaster for someone else. That being said, I do believe the most important thing someone can do before starting a relationship is to become very self aware; know what you want, know what will compliment you and know your non-negotiables.

What is the most asked question from your client? And why?

The most common question is “How do I know when I’ve found the right one?” This is a hard one to answer but, in general, you will just know. There is usually a sense of relief and comfort when you meet. The ONLY way to get to that point, however, is through self awareness. Many people who haven’t taken the time to get to know (and love) themselves can find themselves thinking they “know” but, eventually realize the person is not a good match for them. If you are in alignment with who you are and know what you want – you will just “know”.

Do you have some requirements for your clients?

My clients need to be willing to put in the work. My programs are not for those who just want a little help here and there – they need to be willing to put in the time and energy to make this happen. They also need to be willing to dig deep and shift some significant beliefs and negative thought patterns in order to set themselves up for success.

Is there a universal strategy that works for all dating advices?

I hate to sound like a broken record but becoming self aware is key to a successful dating life, relationship and life in general. Once you are on a path to self-awareness it is important to, not only, accept yourself for who you are, what you’ve done and what you want, but also really love yourself. True confidence comes from being fully comfortable with the wonderful uniqueness of who you are – “flaws” and “quirks” included!

Also I must add the importance of being safe while dating. Take precaution before giving out your personal information or agreeing to meet. 1. Get to know them via phone before meeting them in person (texting alone is not enough). 2. Try to verify that they are who they say they are and that they are telling you the truth (Search them on social media and Circuit Court/Public Records sites) 3. Drive separately. 4. Tell others where you will be and who you will be with. 5. Always – always trust your gut. If something doesn’t feel right – don’t continue.

Is there a specific trait that prevents someone from having a successful relationship?

There are quite a few actually. However, one consistent problem I see in failing relationships is an unwillingness to take responsibility and admit faults. Instead, blame becomes prominent which causes resentment and frustration. Fondness and appreciation then dwindles which inevitably breaks down the relationship. This pitfall can be overcome if each partner asks themselves “what can I do different to make this relationship better?”

Sheri Maass

How have apps such as Tinder and online dating sites changed the way of dating?

Dating sites and apps have completely changed dating as we know it today. Like with most technological advances, there are positive and negative consequences. One positive is we now have quick, easy access to millions of singles at our fingertips. We have the ability to consider so many different characteristics, interests, personalities and beliefs without leaving our couch. This is a great way to consider what you want and do not want before even contacting anyone. This is also a great way to recognize that our world is so big and that there are plenty of options out there. This recognition eliminates many people’s limited perceptions of what is available.

The negative, however, can also mean so many options...how do we choose? This can cause a “grass is greener” mentality leading many to fear commitment – always holding out for something better that may come along. Now there is nothing wrong with desiring to just date around for the rest of your life if you feel perfectly content doing so. It is, however, a problem when you fear commitment – which can actually become subconscious turmoil and can manifest negatively in other areas of your life.

If there’s one piece of advice you’d have for singles who are looking for a partner, what would it be?

Get to know yourself, then love yourself. Don’t expect someone else to do that for you. That’s quite a responsibility for someone else to carry. You are unique and beautiful and love is always available to you. You simply need to choose to see it and be it.

Interview with A Top Tier Dating Coach: Deni Abbie



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by Vic Corts | 6:15 a.m. | July 1st 2016

If we are asked what the most important thing in life is, dating and relationships are going to be the answer for so many people. It is human nature to seek relationships with others. Some may do it for fun and some do it to create a new life.

There are not many people in the world who can give better dating advice than top tier dating coaches. They are professionals possessing masterful skill in dating and flirting with all types of people. Not just that, they are best at interpersonal skills as well as philosophy and sociology.

Because of their knowledge, these dating coaches are well-known for bringing a successful dating life to their clients. Our dating coach for today's interview is Deni Abbie from lovinglife.us. Being a dating coach and a hypnotherapist, she is using an effective approach called “Positive Suggestion Techniques” providing quick results yet persisting benefits to her clients.

Let's hear what she has to say about the life of a dating coach.

What life experience made you decide that you would like to be a dating coach?

My own personal experience of being married for years, and then getting back in the dating arena, initiated my passion to help others navigate the dating world in a healthy successful manner.

I became aware of the many pitfalls of dating and wanted to help educate people on how to date more successfully.

It doesn’t matter if you are 20 and just starting out, or 70 and starting over, it all pertains to understanding key elements to being a smart dater. I knew that I could help people, and wanted to make a difference.

What was your dating life like before you became a coach?

I believe my dating life was very similar to many other’s, I dated based on chemistry, if I met someone I was attracted to I dated them. The problem with this is that chemistry fades and you are left with do I like this person and are we a good match?

How does being a dating coach affect your own love life? Do you apply the same rules and matching techniques to your dating habits?

Deni AbbieI trained to become a Coach and started learning about relationships and dating. I did a lot of studying and researching, focusing on making it my expertise. During the process you also learn about yourself and that is key in healthy dating as well as Coaching.

I absolutely use the practices I suggest in my own dating life. If you are not following the advice you give others in your own life, then you do not truly believe it is effective.

What is the most important thing when giving relationship advice to your client?

Honesty is the most important thing you can give your client. You are in a partnership with your client to help them achieve their goals. If you are not completely honest with them you cannot help them.

I believe that everyone has the ability to succeed if they believe in themselves, and, they believe they can succeed. We work together to gain the ability to learn to believe in themselves.

What is the most asked question from your client and why?

How can I tell if they are the right person for me or not?” People are trying to find out if the person they are going on a date with is ” the one”. They are trying to get past the chemistry and concentrate on how to tell if they are a good fit.

To do this first you need to know exactly what you want before you go on a date and then there are keys to listening and asking questions to find out if they have the qualities you are looking for?

Do you have requirements for you clients?

They have to have the desire to be open to emotional growth and a new thought process; that is all I require.

Is there a specific trait that prevents someone from having a successful relationship?

Deni Abbie, a dating coach from DallasEmotional Unavailability is the most destructive of all traits in being able to have a successful relationship. There are many traits that are bad (Narcissists, Sociopaths, passive aggressive etc,) but a person that is emotionally unavailable will subconsciously sabotage every relationship they are in and never be aware they are doing it consciously.

How have apps such as Tinder and online dating changed the ways of dating?

Online dating has opened up access so that people are able to have a much larger dating spectrum. You are no longer stuck dating the boy/girl next door.

You can date the person across the city, state or continent. Online dating due to the ease and opportunity is the wave of future dating.

Safety is important when you are online dating; spend time verifying the person you are talking to up front., there are scam artist out there.

If there were one piece of advice you have for singles that are looking for a partner, what would it be?

Be your authentic self from the very start when you meet someone. Know that if this person does not see the value in you, as you are ,they are not the right one for you. You will be fortunate enough to find someone that appreciates all of the wonderful qualities you have to offer.

Never create yourself falsely for somebody, to win his or her affection. If they do not love you for who you are, it is their loss, move on!

Interview with A Top Tier Dating Coach: Marina Lavochin



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by Vic Corts | midnight | June 24th 2016

If we are asked what the most important thing in life is, dating and relationships are going to be the answer for so many people. It is human nature to seek relationships with others. Some may do it for fun and some do it to create a new life.

There are not many people in the world who can give better dating advice than top tier dating coaches. They are professionals possessing masterful skill in dating and flirting with all types of people. Not just that, they are best at interpersonal skills as well as philosophy and sociology.

Because of their knowledge, these dating coaches are well-known for bringing a successful dating life to their clients. As promised in our last interview with Kezia Noble, our dating coach for today's interview is Marina Lavochin, a dating coach from Seattle with the concept of Alter Ego. Marina has been successfully helping her clients to get relationship result they want by providing a different perspective and detailed tips and tricks based on her personal life experiences.

Let's hear what she has to say about the life of a dating coach.

What life experience made you decide that you would like to be a dating coach?

Hmm, which specific life experience made me get into this? I'm not sure there's just one. I've always been good at problem solving and giving blunt advice, so combining that with my own experiences in the dating world seemed like a logical move. I also love helping people, however I'm able to. Seeing how my tips and advice helped my guy friends with their own confidence and understand women better inspired me to help as many great guys out there as possible.

marina lavochin

What was your dating life like before you became a dating coach?

I was in a serious relationship, actually was engaged and called off a wedding a few months before starting dating coaching. The relationship was a very challenging one and it was affecting me in a lot of ways. I lost my confidence, started becoming more and more consumed with the relationship and wanted to understand what was going on with myself and us as a couple. I started reading a lot of books about relationships, psychology, etc. After discovering the book "Attached" I understood so much about myself and my ex, how our attachment styles were clashing and how we spoke completely different love languages. The relationship fell apart but I became almost obsessed with studying more about the topic and my desire to help others awoke.

How does being a dating coach affect your own love life? Do you apply the same rules and matching techniques to your own dating habits?

Haha, I knew this question was gonna be on the list! I'm pretty open about my own life and journey, so I'm comfortable sharing this. I use my own stories, experiences and examples with clients all the time and sometimes even blog about my personal love life when I feel gutsy enough.

I own love life is definitely affected - it sucks most of the time, to be completely honest. Dating was super hard for me because guys got intimidated instantly when learning about my profession. Jealousy also comes into play because of how much time I spend with single guys, usually on weekends and evenings. I'm lucky to have found a guy who's confident enough to handle my job and understands my passion and need to help others in my own way.

We still have to work through a lot of the normal things most couples have to, but he gets the bonus of having me try to tell him what to do all the time ????. And no, I definitely didn't follow my own rules to a t when it came to the first date. When your boundaries are healthy those "rules" can pretty much go out the window. I don't personally need to just have a 20 min first date or stay away from certain topics. Our first date was probably 7 or 8 hours long and we spilled all of our crap, ex's, worst habits, everything. It was pretty funny. We pretty much just said "this is me, the good the bad, the ugly - still want to do this?"

What is the most important thing when giving relationship advice to your client?

Marina Lavochin talking to her clientEvery client is different and the advice has to be specific to their own situation and whatever they're dealing with. We're all just humans with different lessons we need to learn, with different preferences and wants/needs. Advice has to incorporate all of those factors.

What is the most asked question from your client? And why?

"What's wrong with women???" Just kidding. I'm not sure if there's just one question that comes up over and over. I'd say it's specific to the women they messaged or texted and wondering why someone didn't reply or vanished. Rejection sucks and we all want to understand why.

Do you have some requirements for your clients?

Yes. I only take on clients who are genuine and good guys inside. I'd never work with someone who just wants to become a player and pick up chicks to boost his ego. I'm very selective when it comes to saying yes to a client.

The guys also have to be successful in other areas of their life. Most of my clients have great careers and have great friendships, ability to create structure in their lives and are responsible adults. I'm not qualified to offer coaching to someone who's hopeless, irresponsible, or doesn't have passion or direction in life. Those successes in other areas of their life are necessary in order for my coaching to be productive.

Is there a universal strategy that works for all dating advices?

Yes and no. Yes, because it's just someone's personal journey and the strategy of:

  • Get confident
  • Go on lots of dates to get practice and feel desirable while learning what you like and need in a relationship

And No, because every person will have different things they need to overcome through that process. Some will have a hold up about their appearance, or their living situation, or their upbringing, or past history.

Others will have a fear of intimacy and being vulnerable with someone. Every person has their own bag of shit that's been collected through their entire life and how I help is by identifying it as just that, shit. Bullshit belief that won't go away until awareness is brought to it and experiences are created to prove it wrong.

Is there a specific trait that prevents someone from having a successful relationship?

This is a hard one. I'd say being stubborn is probably the one I'd pick. Someone who's very stuck in their own ways and not open to seeing things in a different light, from a different perspective. Relationships aren't about winning. They're about understanding, support, and growing together.

How have apps such as Tinder and online dating sites changed the way of dating?

Marina Lavochin on her matchmaking serviceThey've made it much easier to meet singles and pre-qualify people a little better. I think they're awesome if you know what you're doing.

The other result is people's lack of investment into getting to know someone. Having so many options and knowing that you can get 5 other dates lined up in a matter of minutes prevents a lot of people from truly connecting. A couple may go on a date and someone may not be in the best mood or maybe the conversation wasn't as exciting as it could have been, and people give up. We expect fireworks and shooting stars in order to give someone another chance, which prevents relationships from forming.

If there’s one piece of advice you’d have for singles who are looking for a partner, what would it be?

I get asked this all the time .

MALES - This is directed to Single, available men who want a relationship: Take Charge!

Get confident with your appearance, master your body language, learn to be in control of situations by being intentional and leading, and stop asking so many questions. Just share your wants, desires, goals, and start leading it there. If the girl isn't into it, she'll tell you. If she is, she'll be along for the ride. Asking only creates delays, confusion, and wastes precious time that you could be spending actually living those dream moments you want.

FEMALES - again, this is directed to Single, available females who want a relationship: Be More Feminine!

I usually get eaten alive when I summarize it like that and tell women to be more girly, but it's all about understanding feminine energy and masculine energy. I struggle with this one myself and have to constantly remind myself to let go of needing to feel in control and manage everything while allowing and encouraging the man to be in charge.

It's about acknowledging their strengths, their need to have a purpose and a destination, and us being the ones who either say Yes, I want that to be my lifestyle and I am passionate about supporting this man's goals and live out his purpose or No, this guy is not the one for me. I don't want to lead the relationship, constantly nag about unmet needs, always suggest what he should do and point out things he's doing wrong while not respecting and trusting him enough to be in charge of the big picture. It's our role as women to choose. We can offer encouragement and add to the relationship a lot but we shouldn't choose men whom we don't trust enough allowing us to sit back knowing that we're on the right track.

Our dating coach interview does not end here. Check back our blog next week and read the dating and relationship advice from the Deni Abbie, a dating coach and a hypnotherapist with “Positive Suggestion Techniques” from Dallas.

Interview with A Top Tier Dating Coach: Kezia Noble



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by Vic Corts | 10:42 a.m. | June 9th 2016

If we are asked what the most important thing in life is, dating and relationships are going to be the answer for so many people. It is human nature to seek relationships with others. Some may do it for fun and some do it to create a new life.

There are not many people in the world who can give better dating advice than top tier dating coaches. They are professionals possessing masterful skill in dating and flirting with all types of people. Not just that, they are best at interpersonal skills as well as philosophy and sociology.

Because of their knowledge, these dating coaches are well-known for bringing a successful dating life to their clients. As promised in our last interview with Hunt Ethridge, our dating coach for today's interview is Kezia Noble. She is a leading dating and attraction expert for men, and author of the bestselling book ‘The Noble Art Of Seducing Women’. As a founder and CEO of Kezia Noble (http://www.kezia-noble.com/), Kezia has helped over ONE MILLION men to become more successful with women.

Let's hear what she has to say about the life of a dating coach.

What life experience made you decide that you would like to be a dating coach?

Kezia Noble, a Famous Dating Coach from UKMy interest in social dynamics, mind management, confidence building and self-marketing are the main reasons for why I felt the role of a dating and attraction expert was the right for me, but also, I believe that my no-nonsense, direct and fiercely honest nature are facets of my character that lend well to giving advice to people who want REAL results as opposed to people who just want to hear ‘sugar coated encouragement that only serve to massage their egos.

What was your dating life like before you became a dating coach?

I dated a variety of men. From young to old. From poor to rich. From clowns to intellectuals. It’s this variety that essentially makes me a good attraction coach. I don’t pay too much attention on ‘types’. My prime focus is on ‘game’ which can transcend through any ‘specific types’. These days I’m far more aware when someone is nervous, when someone has inner confidence rather than a fake brashness. I’ve become more alert to the telltale signs compared to before I become a dating expert.

How does being a dating coach affect your own love life? Do you apply the same rules and matching techniques to your own dating habits?

I certainly do apply my own advice to my dating life. It’s extremely difficult to resist the temptation to text a guy I like straight back, or to put someone I desire in cold storage, but I know these kinds of tactics, as infantile as they may at first seem, really do produce strong results. Being a mother of a small child, it makes the dating game even more tricky, but I’m having fun experimenting with this particular situation.

What is the most important thing when giving relationship advice to your client?

I always tell my clients that they need to keep focusing time and energy on things going on outside of the relationship. We love the idea of being the prime focus of someone’s attention but in reality it can be extremely overwhelming, and dare I say it, a little needy. You always need to keep up with your hobbies, interests and social life. Otherwise, your partner could become a little complacent and bored. Always remember what it was that made them attracted to you in the first place too.

What is the most asked question from your client? And why?

Interview with Kezia NobleHow do I stop getting friend zoned? This is the result of two very common sticking points, which are coming across as too much of a Mr Nice Guy and not being able to flirt or sexually escalate the interaction/relationship. Staying in the Friend-zone is a frustrating experience but many people subconsciously choose it because it’s also a safe zone.

Do you have some requirements for your clients?

Only that they do as they're told, if they start mixing my advice with friends advice then the process will take a lot longer, and conflicting opinions can confuse my clients and result in them giving up all together.

Is there a universal strategy that works for all dating advices?

Yes, a man or woman must first make sure the person they like respects them. Without respect there can’t be any real attraction.

Is there a specific trait that prevents someone from having a successful relation?

Yes, it’s not having the confidence or ‘know how’ to escalate the relationship into the direction they wish it to go. Whether that means making bold first move to actually approach someone in the first place or taking incremental steps within the interaction to take it to the next phase.

How have apps such as Tinder and online dating sites changed the way of dating?

It has affected peoples social skills quite a lot. People spend a great deal of time on perfecting their profiles and messages in order to convey cool, confident and charismatic personas, and believe that 80% of the job is getting the other person to agree to meet. In actual fact, that’s probably the easiest part! The hard part is being consistent with that online persona when you both meet in real life.

If there’s one piece of advice you’d have for singles who are looking for a partner, what would it be?

Make dating just an extra part of your life rather than your entire life. People can pick up on desperation from miles away. No one wants to be with the person who is obsessed on finding ‘the one’. We want someone who has an active social life, interests, hobbies and passions and a contentment that is not ultimately governed or determined by whether they find someone or not. Now that’s attractive!

We would like to end an interview with Kezia's dating advice video on YouTube that is currently having over 5 million views "how to make her want you".

Our dating coach interview does not end here. Check back our blog next week and read the dating and relationship advice from the Seattle dating coach with Alter Ego concept, Marina Lavochin.

7 Books that Tremendously Improve Your Dating Skills



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by Vic Corts | 9 p.m. | June 2nd 2016

Every individual has been attracted or will be attracted to someone at a certain point in life. Being social animals, the urge to seek out a partner more often than not expresses itself once a person becomes an adolescent. Despite the fact that attraction comes naturally many people experience a challenge expressing their feelings and desires towards their intended partners. As a result, acquiring the requisite dating skills has emerged as one of the most pressing needs in the 21st century. This review of some of the bestselling dating books skills aims at helping individuals hone the requisite skills in today’s dating arena.

Swoon

By: Betsy Prioleau

swoon book coverPrioleau in her book Swoon allows her readers to indirectly experience the dating exploits of renowned ‘seductionists’ such as Casanova. The book also explores how the dating scene has changed in recent years as the social scene has slowly embraced same-sex relations. What makes ‘Swoon’ a must have for people entering the dating scene is the author’s ability to effectively express how skills espoused by famed libertines such as Casanova can be used to win over someone’s heart. Men love what they work hard for, because to them, easy come easy go. However, this notion does not imply that women should just lay back and wait for men to be their knight in shining armour. The main point is the fact that men have forgotten how to pursue women with the utmost sincerity. Chasing after a man can be catastrophic because men love the women they run after and not the ones they run away from. Men literally worship their freedom, and as hard as it may sound chasing after something that does not want to be caught can be downright and exhausting.

Never chase men again

By: Bruce Bryans

Never Chase Men AgainNever Chase Men Again: 38 Dating Secrets to Get the Guy, Keep Him Interested, and Prevent Dead-End Relationships by Bruce Bryans got published in 2015. The book serves to show women how men appraise how women behave in a bid to determine their value and level of self-respect as a romantic partner. It allows the readers to discover the unchanging seduction secrets and dating do’s and don’ts. By getting an insight into the canons of dating, a woman can evade catastrophic dating frustrations and keep away from appearing desperate or even needy. Some of the lessons to be learnt in the book include: The common mistakes committed by women during dating that compel men to “run away for good or keep off from dating in the 21st century. The dating rules for protecting “good women” who often feel exploited and mishandled by the common notorious promiscuous men. Some of the most aggravating and hurting habits that cause high-esteemed men to stop pursuing women instantaneously. How to keep a man interested, attracted, and focused on you with an unwavering loyalty level. The most domineering form of male seduction that keeps a woman destitute and powerlessly chasing after a man.

The modern day dating seems very devious and highly problematic. It remains marked by unending rough situations and frustrations. Even with all the texting, snap chatting, Facebooking, tindering, and Tweeting, communication between individuals remains “uncommunicative”. People would rather “hang out” than take dating with the much seriousness it deserves. The heightening Hangouts have made men sit back waiting for women to make the move. It should be clearly noted that in the past, men were the hunters and gatherers. As prescribed by nature, they ought to be the initiators of the relationships. Research shows that the most successful relationships come about when men become the initiators or make the first move. Relationships that begin as a result of women chasing after men do not have a happy ending. In his book, Bruce Bryans highly discourages women from chasing after men. According to him, chasing after a man kills the thrill of dating.

Ignore the Guy, Get the Guy: The Art of No Contact

By: Leslie Braswell

Ignore the Guy: The art of no contactThe above book serves as an “instruction manual” to the dating life. It reminds women about maintaining their standards and loving themselves above anything else. Being a single woman in this century seems gruelling because it implies that one has to be selective, smart and even sexy. Furthermore, it alludes that one has options to choose. Matters of the heart have always been complicated because the heart wants what it wants at all costs in most cases. The heart cannot be taught to “unlove” and it cannot get “Unbroken” and that’s a really harsh reality about life. The books enable women to learn how to prevent their men from losing interest, how to handle their emotions and a breakup among many other benefits.

Men Don’t Love Women Like You

By: G.L Lambert

Men Dont Love Women Like YouMen Don’t Love Women Like You by G.L Lambert is a breakthrough that speaks the brutal truth about dating. It does not seem like just any other book rather it is meant to be the step to step guide to evolution. It will break you down and bring you right back as quoted by the famous Beyoncé Knowles. The book provides real-life knowledge and information about dating and how to successfully work your way through it. The best thing about the book is that it presents facts as they are without “sugar-coating” or leaving out any crucial information. It stresses more on moving from a placeholder to a game changer. G.L Lambert, in his book, mainly aims at enhancing people’s dating skills.

The Love Affairs of Nathaniel P

By: Adelle Waldman

The Love Affairs of Nathaniel PThe love Affairs of Nathaniel P’ by Adelle Waldman book was first published in 2013. It clearly spells out the love affairs of Nate, P, a young man in search of happiness, and an inside on how he thinks about women. Nathaniel, P, a writer and a rising star has his pick of both women and magazines. When one of his relationships starts growing, he is compelled to consider what he really wants. One of the many problems facing modern dating revolves around the indecisiveness of some individuals. Adelle Waldman throws us into the flaws of the modern man. It reveals a man who thinks himself as beyond apparent judgement, even though he struggles with anxiety. Despite being drawn to women, he lets them down regularly, and this makes him an emblem of our times. The book provides insight into the dating world where people worry about breaking up with regards to how extensively they have invested in the relationship. Kate Hudson says, “This is excellent! Adelle Waldman writes a witty, relatable, and insightful novel about modern dating.”

The Five Flirting Styles: Use the Science of Flirting to Attract the Love You Really want

By: Jeffrey Hall

The Five Flirting StylesThe Five Flirting Styles’ by Jeffrey Hall revolves around identifying the natural flirting styles whether playful, physical, polite, traditional and sincere. The flirting styles to aid in making individuals flirt smarter and attract the love of their lives. The book enables individuals to discover where to search for love depending on their style. It also serves to make people tell if someone is interested so as to avoid missed opportunities. Jeffrey Hall also makes readers tell if someone wants a serious relationship or they want a quick fling. Understanding our flirting styles serves as one of the ways to enhancing our dating techniques. Flirting techniques have a significant impact on people’s love lives.

 

The Dating Playbook For Men: A Proven 7 Step System to go from Single to the Woman of your Dreams

By: Andrew Ferebee

The Dating Playbook for MenThe Dating Playbook for Men enables men to move from single frustrated bachelors to having the woman of their dreams. To continue, through the book, individuals are able to turn the barriers preventing them from chasing the women of their dreams. One of the most crucial goals of men in life has always been the ability to pursue and conquer the love of their life. It enables men to derive an unexplainable sense of pride that emanates from deep within. In most cases, it makes them abundantly motivated about life. The book enables men to turn obstacles like the fear of rejection in allies. Apart from this, the book enables men to build a fascinating social life that can be envied by other men. Through the book, men get to understand what women desire or want. One of the greatest causes of failure in dating embodies men’s inability to understand what women want. Even though it remains an uphill task to understand the desires of women due to their volatile nature, men’s lack of interest makes the situation worse. Sometimes a great mystery encompasses the art of understanding women. The first step to unveiling the mystery is using a guide from men and women of wisdom as in Andrew Ferebee’s book.

Interview with A Top Tier Dating Coach: Hunt Ethridge



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by Vic Corts | 4:32 p.m. | June 1st 2016

If we are asked what the most important thing in life is, dating and relationships are going to be the answer for so many people. It is human nature to seek relationships with others. Some may do it for fun and some do it to create a new life.

There are not many people in the world who can give better dating advice than top tier dating coaches. They are professionals possessing masterful skill in dating and flirting with all types of people. Not just that, they are best at interpersonal skills as well as philosophy and sociology.

Because of their knowledge, these dating coaches are well-known for bringing a successful dating life to their clients. And today we have a chance to interview Hunt Ethridge, currently CMO of LiveDatingAdvice.com as well as a co-founder and senior partner at International Dating Coach Association (IDCA). He has been helping hundreds of couples including the C-level employees of world famous companies, politicians, and even local celebrities.

Let's hear what he has to say about the life of a dating coach.

What life experience made you decide that you would like to be a dating coach?

Actually I was pushed into it! I was going to a psychiatrist over 10 years ago and she said this to me: “The men that come in here are broken and I can fix them. But the thing they want the most is to have a woman at their side and I can’t help them with that. You know more about this than anyone I’ve ever met, you need to figure out a way to monetize this and when you do I will refer all of my patients to you.” Wow! Hearing three such great comments from a female psychiatrist was meaningful.

I had always had a way with people, half of which are women, but I didn’t know others saw it this way. So I started looking at what I did, researched if there was a need, if there was a way to break it down, etc. And I then opened my first practice.

What was your dating life like before you became a dating coach?

Before I became a coach I led a pretty fun and busy dating life. Living and working in the New York City area gave me access to every sort of woman out there. Young, old, from this country or that country, tattooed rocker chick, sweet and kind fashionista and everything in between. So I was in no rush to settle down as there was such a variety to explore. And while I may have been a bit of a player, I prided myself on being and honest one.

Every girl that I was involved with knew exactly where we stood. I was never the guy that needed to lie or manipulate to get what I wanted. That’s not fun. You want someone to be with you because they like you, not the persona you are putting out there. But I had no real idea of why the things I was doing were working. It was just trying to be an authentic me and people, especially women, responded well to that.

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How does being a dating coach affect your own love life? Do you apply the same rules and matching techniques to your own dating habits?

It absolutely affects my love life! I have had to learn and study all about human psychology, biology and sociology as well as the differences between men and women and the way they think. I am now married, so while I don’t use the information to find singles, I absolutely use it to continue to date my wife. Just because you say “I do” doesn’t mean that the dating or romance stops. In fact, you’ve got to up your game! Sometimes I will be discussing something about the philosophy or practicality of dating to someone and my wife will hear me and say, “Hey, that sounds familiar! Were….were you….practicing on me?!” “Of course I was, honey!” But I am the only person in a couple I know that voluntarily read dating and relationship books, so it can’t help BUT make my own relationship better!

What is the most important thing when giving relationship advice to your client?

One of the most important things when giving advice is making sure they hear you. Not if they are listening, but are they really hearing and understanding and getting what it is you are saying. You can’t just talk “at” someone, you have to talk “with” them. In order to get them to understand difficult concepts or realities, you have to put it into ways that they can understand and recognize. For instance, I tell my clients that the onus is on them to practice.

Just showing up for their one hour a week won’t do much on its own. Imagine I’m a tennis coach. At the first lesson I teach you a forehand. Then it’s your job to go and hit 1000 balls up against the wall. Then I’ll teach you a backhand and you have to go out and hit 1000 balls up against the wall again. Basically I’m telling them that you can’t expect growth without putting aside hours devoted just to learning about dating. Otherwise, you won’t get the most out of it.

Another aspect of getting them to hear you is to understand their own past. If someone is a virgin and never been kissed, I can’t say, “You know when you’ve been dating for a couple of weeks and you’re trying to figure out where it’s going?” They have no frame of reference for this. So I have to come up with ways that they can relate to. For the virgin I will have to teach it one way and for the 40 year-old widower, I need to come at it a different way.

Lastly, I have to know how they see themselves as well to know how to best have them hear and get me. If someone is very plain but thinks they are fantastic, I have to approach it one way. If someone thinks they are plain and are actually very good looking, I have to approach it another.

So, basically learning HOW to teach is the most important thing.

What is the most asked question from your client? And why?

Hunt Ethridge, a top tier dating coachWell this differs between men and women. For men, they want to know the RIGHT thing to say and the RIGHT way to say it and the RIGHT thing to wear and the RIGHT place to go. Which are all the wrong questions. There IS no right way. To each their own. I can use almost any sentence as my opening approach and make it work. It’s more about attitude and believing in yourself.

They are hoping to find the “equation” to make it work for them. I have to disabuse them of this notion and get them to learn that there are no hard and fast rules and the best thing to learn is how to adapt and figure out what tools or skills to use in any given moment.

For women, the question I get the most is, “What is wrong with me?” They may have had lots of success when younger and suddenly find themselves alone. Or they continue to date men, yet the men ghost on them or stop dating them. And the women, unfortunately, take it very personally. Because they are also seeing other women that they feel are less accomplished having no problem getting men. I have to teach them this great quote, “Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. The men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting

hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the ground that aren't as good, but easy.

So the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, THEY'RE amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.” It doesn’t make it any easier, but it helps them to understand what is happening.

Do you have some requirements for your clients?

The only requirement I have for my clients is a willingness to be open, to get ready to work. They have to understand that there is no magic panacea that will fix things. What will move you forward is a dedication to your journey, understanding that failure is part of learning and that you need to devote some time in your week specifically to work on your dating skills.

Is there a universal strategy that works for all dating advices?

Ha ha ha, I wish! I think that since the dawn of time, people have been looking for the universal constant. Plus everyone is different so what might work for me might not necessarily work for you. But I can definitely say that those people who are good with who they are as a person, faults and all and look at meeting people as a fun and exciting journey are the ones that have the greatest success. By far. It sounds a little cheesy, but no one is looking for perfection. What we all ARE looking for is someone with a good sense of self that doesn’t need us to “complete them.”

Is there a specific trait that prevents someone from having a successful relation?

The one obvious one is lack of communication. I am constantly amazed at the relationship issues that spiral out of control that could have been nipped in the bud with a little communication earlier on. Talk! Be open! Ask questions and don’t be afraid to address concerns, otherwise, how could the other person know that you are bothered?

Another trait is the thought that “I can change them.” NO! No, you can’t. And you shouldn’t. I mean, okay, a little bit of nudging is okay. Like learning how to be cleaner or to learn to cook a few meal. But fundamental behavioral qualities? They don’t change and if you try to change them, one of two things is going to happen. 1) They don’t change and you keep getting more and more frustrated with them until you blow up or 2) They get so annoyed with you trying to change them into something that they are not that THEY blow up. A person is the way they are. And if you don’t love them for it, someone else will.

How have apps such as Tinder and online dating sites changed the way of dating?

The easier it is to get a date, the less value we put on them. What this means is that we are becoming a society of disposable daters. In previous years, you met someone in person and got to talk with them. If that goes well you get a phone number and set up a date, etc. You are working a bit for and you are putting value on this interaction. With the way things are now, no one wants to work. Or, the tiniest little disqualifier (“Ugh, I hate the way they chew!”) can send someone for the hills because they think that they can just dial up another date, sometimes even that evening! And when it’s so easy, you have two other things that rear their head: paralysis of choice and trading up.

Paralysis of choice basically means that the more options, the more difficult it is to choose. If you needed to paint your room and someone gave you the option of green or blue, it would be easy for you to choose. But if I gave you a color book with 1600 choices, your brain would explode trying to figure out which one you want. Same thing in dating. And with the trading up, again, because it can be so easy, if someone meets a, say, 9.5/10, they might (stupidly) give them up in the hopes that a perfect 10 may come around.

Hunt Ethridge on an easy day.

If there’s one piece of advice you’d have for singles who are looking for a partner, what would it be?

“Are you interesting?” It can be summed up almost as simple as this. If I ask someone, “What did you do this weekend?” and the answer is “Not much, watched some Netflix and read”, I’m going to move on to the next person. However what if they told me, “Well on Saturday, I met my friend for coffee and then we walked around the city for a bit. That night I went to a movie I wanted to see by myself. On Sunday I did my **insert your hobby or pastime here** and caught up with some friends.” I am now very intrigued! I want to know more about this person!

One of the toughest things I teach is to reconnect with fun. Dating is SUPPOSED to be fun. That doesn’t mean it is, just that it should be. So go do things that you find fun! Your body language opens up, your energy rises, you smile more! And even if there isn’t anyone in that group that you would date, everyone there has siblings, friends, coworker that they want to say, “I just met this fantastic, dynamic person that you have to meet!”

Our dating coach interview does not end here. Check back our blog next week and read the dating and relationship advice from the CEO of Kezia Noble and the author of the bestselling book “Noble Art of Seducing Women”.

 

Recommended Board Game Cafes for Geeks in Bangkok



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by Vic Corts | 8:37 a.m. | May 1st 2016

Bangkok knows what you want and it graciously gives it to you: a pulsing night scene, iconic temples, shopping malls and night markets. It is a city that has launched hundreds of ‘Top 10 Things to Do in Bangkok’ listicles that seem to suggest that Bangkok has nothing else to offer other than temples and street food. These listicles often neglect to mention Bangkok’s budding reputation as a hobby hub that offers thrills to both hobbyists and casual gamers. The Thai capital rarely conjures the image of a city brimming with gamers’ cafés, and that ought to change.

Sitting quietly among quirky bistros, posh bars and ‘best restaurants’ are gamers’ and geeky cafes that have been proliferating in Bangkok for some time. They provide a refreshing change of dating scenery for lovebirds who couldn’t stand to have another date night at an over-decorated and overpriced rooftop bar. When you’re engaging in something that requires two-way (sometimes 7-way when you’re playing a board game) communication, there’s just the slightest chance that frequenting a gamers café could do wonders for your dating life.

Why the Dating Game is Easier to Play in Gamers’ Cafés

The growing number of theme cafes and restaurants in Bangkok has caused most gamers’ cafes to fade into the background. Most Bangkok residents only visit gamers’ cafes because they’re new or when options seem limited. Certified geeks and nerds in Bangkok, however, have been enjoying gamers’ cafes for some time now, while non-gamers and hobbyists are only just beginning to discover them and finding the strangeness of most of these cafes to be a nice surprise.

If you feel like the novelty of going to another fad restaurant is fizzling out, it’s about time you consider gamers’ cafés as an alternative, and increase your chances of scoring further. If you have been harboring a secret genius for Uno, you can unleash this secret on date night and, voila! Instant unforgettable dating moment. Playing a little game of Monopoly lets you peek in to your significant other’s capacity for making life-changing decisions such as knowing when to sell or buy a real estate property, even if the property is just a piece of plastic. Gamers’ cafes provide an avenue to really get to know someone in unexpected ways – something you don’t normally experience in a night out in Seenspace or RCA.

When a date is a choice between seeing a brainless superhero origin movie that has repeatedly been rebooted for the benefit of those who missed it the first 25 times and sitting in an overcrowded restaurant, that’s your cue to play around with your dating options in Bangkok. Try these gamers’ cafes where being called ‘geek’ is almost always a term of endearment.

1. Meeples & More Board Game Café

This unassuming yet charming two-story café is ideal for both board game lovers and lovers who love board games. With a good selection of over 60 games in stock (Go crazy over games such as Three Little Pigs or Food Chain Magnate), it would be impossible to be bored at Meeples & More. Most of the games are in good condition and the comfortable sofas and cheery décor are major pluses. 50 baht gets you an hour of playtime while 150 lets you go on a full-day board game spree – ideal if you intend to try most of the games and stay for more than 3 hours (because why wouldn’t you?). The food menu, while limited, includes a decent selection of rice meals, pastries and drinks.

Food Price: ~100 THB
Opening Hours: 2:00 PM – 11:00 PM on Tuesday – Friday and 11:00 AM – 11:00 PM on Saturday - Sunday
Location: Ruam Rudee Village, 5 minutes' walk from BTS Phloen Chit station
Google Map:https://goo.gl/maps/oCEzQRyqbBP2
Official Site: https://www.facebook.com/meeplesandmore/

Meeples and More Board Game Cafe

2. More Than a Game Café

While more ideal as a place to hang out with friends or family, More Than a Game Café is also terrific for couples that enjoy being in the company of giddy gamers. The café’s three branches – Chulalongkorn, I’M Park Community Mall, Thong Lo 13 – all have a large catalogue of adult and kids’ games, some of which are displayed and sold. Their food menu is one of the varied among gamers’ cafes: sweet and savory waffles are their specialty and the coffee and smoothie selection includes more than just basic brews.

The place can get a little noisy due to the large presence of families with kids, but that is just a testament to its fun atmosphere, which makes it such a big draw with families and the gaming crowd. Get a membership for you and your special someone so you could get all the benefits and scheduling a second (or third) date won’t be such a hassle.

Food Price: ~50-150 THB
Opening Hours: 11:00 AM - 9:00 PM, on Monday – Friday and 10.00 AM– 9.00 PM on Saturday and Sunday
Thong Lo 13 Branch Location: Soi Sukhumvit 49/4 (Soi Akkharaphat), 15 minutes walk from Thong lo BTS Station
Google Map: https://goo.gl/maps/KHjvkED2Qgo
Official Site: http://www.morethanagamecafe.com/

More Than a Game Cafe

3. Ninive Game Cafe

Pizza and play go well together on date night, and Ninive Game Café offers just that. Although it is, mainly, a store for games distributor Ninive Game Store’s games, whose most prominent product is The Settlers of Catan, this café lets you pick from impressive hundreds of games to playfor free!

The store/café, located in Phra Khanong, is great for late-night date nights because of its late opening hours

Food Price: ~100-250 THB
Opening Hours: 2:00 AM - 1:00 AM, Daily
Location: 1108/13-14 Sukumvit Plus Soy 1, 4 minutes walk from Phra Khaning BTS Station
Google Map: https://goo.gl/maps/E7ejf4YBufN2
Official Site: http://www.ninivegames.com/en/

Ninive Game Cafe

4. Boarding Time Board Game Café

With its steampunk aesthetic and comfy furniture, Boarding Time Board Game Café should be on geeky couples’ go-to list for a cozy play-date. You and your beloved can gawk at the shop’s 400+ board games for sale (to store visitors as well as to other local board game shops) and over 200 games that can be played in-store. To foster a sense of community among patrons, the staff sometimes seats customers with other customers. Kitchen prepares savory dishes such as green curry and potato curry, as well as sandwiches, French fries, chicken karage and hash browns for those who have a smaller appetite, while dessert and beverage menu includes ETE ice cream-parfait, coffee, Italian soda and softdrinks. You will eat up the company, community and fun – the stuff that first nerds’ dates are made of.

The café is conveniently accessible through BTS (Phloen Chit station) and is open daily from 2:00 PM – 12:00 AM.

Food Price: ~100-250 THB
Opening Hours: 2:00 PM - 12:00 AM, Daily
Location: 888/20 Soi Mahatun Building, 2 minutes walk from Phloen Chit BTS Station
Google Map: https://goo.gl/maps/43L554VeEn52
Official Site: http://boardingtimegames.com/

Boarding Time Board Game Cafe

5. Bitbox Boardgame Café

Bitbox is among the few no-frills board game cafés ideal for couples that are already going steady. For extremely casual dates – one that involves friend tag-alongs – Bitbox is one of the better options. The place tend to draw a much younger crowd, perhaps because of its straightforward approach to service: a handful of games and a few refreshments. Some drinks are served in quirky mason jars and if you’re lucky, you get one with a cat-shaped foam. Deserts and other food items are priced somewhere between 80 to 100 baht, and you can buy toys, too.

Food Price: ~80-100 THB
Opening Hours: 2:30 PM - 12:00 AM, Daily
Location: Soi Amornphan, Phaholyothin Rd, 3.5 km from Phahon Yothin MRT Station
Google Map: https://goo.gl/maps/RdEynhBpxSp
Official Site: http://www.bitboxcafe.com/

Bitbox Boardgame Cafe

6. Kopi-O Board Game Café

This museum-like café, located in Sukhumvit Soi 33, was founded by a board game aficionado, which should explain its huge selection of common and rare board games. The sheer volume of games can be a bit overwhelming but that is a problem that you and your lover surely wouldn’t mind having. Selection of food is minimal but that is hardly an issue when you consider that it stores collections of both board games and card games – enough to keep your brain and gaming juices flowing. Helpful staff members would gladly explain some of the games including those that are for sale.

Food Price: ~100-250 THB
Opening Hours: 12:00 PM - 10:00 PM, Daily
Location: Sukumvit 33, 15 minutes walk from Phrom Phong BTS Station
Google Map: https://goo.gl/maps/miKPoohBgbU2
Official Site: https://www.facebook.com/kopioboardgame/

Kopi-O Board Game Cafe

7. Battlefield Bangkok

You’ve heard that iconic line about love being a battlefield and you’ve no doubt experienced one (a battlefield-like love). In Battlefield Bangkok, you will experience no such thing as long as both of you mutually consent to having a day of romantic, geeky gaming fun with three private gaming rooms. This is a great place to take your date to show off your gaming knowledge and, with stacks upon stacks of board games, toys, books and other items, choose the perfect gaming starter pack as anniversary or dating gift. It is free to try and play games at the store. Food can be ordered from a range of local restaurants nearby serving both local and international cuisine such as British, Spanish, and Japanese. Another great thing about this place is it does not have the actual closing hours during Friday - Sun. They are generally "when everyone has gone home".

Food Price: ~20-80 THB
Opening Hours: Wed-Thu: 3:00 PM - 10:00 PM, Fri: 3:00 PM - 11:00 PM, Sat-Sun: 12:30 PM - 11:00 PM
Location: Sukhumvit 101/1, 10 minutes walk from Punnawithi BTS Station
Google Map: https://goo.gl/maps/u24enUZjK2U2
Official Site: http://battlefieldbangkok.com/

board game time at Battlefield Bangkok

8. Game Over Lounge

Situated in one of Sukhumvit’s popular nighttime districts, Game Over Lounge is an ultra-chic gaming space and restaurant where nerdy couples can spontaneously combust in a fit of geeky euophoria. With ample seating, foosball and pool tables, RPG area, and board games scattered about in the lounge, a night out in this hobbyists’ paradise could lead to more geeky date nights. Game Over Lounge is also a nice respite from Thong Lo’s rowdy bars and numerous Japanese-themed restaurants, with its PS4 and Xbox consoles that you can enjoy with juicy burgers (by burger trucker Daniel Thaiger) and craft beers.

The lounge is open from 11.00 am – 2.00 am daily except Mondays.

Food Price: ~100-250 THB
Opening Hours: Tuesday – Sunday: 11:00 AM – 2:00 AM
Location: Sukumvit 55, 25 minutes' walk from Thong Lo BTS Station
Google Map: https://goo.gl/maps/SbduUkKPNX52
Official Site: http://www.gameover.co.th/

Game Over Lounge

Look around your neighborhood, as there are loads of these inconspicuous, cozy spaces that look more like a daycare center than a café. The Playz in Silom, for instance, is a joyful little joint that serves Star Wars-inspired milk, some coffee, pies and Nintendo. If you and your partner are in the mood for some kitsch, the Japanese-inspired Maid Café will more than satiate.

They may be serving just a relatively small community in Bangkok, but these gamers’ cafes have convivial ambience, mostly good menu offerings, and interesting little touches on décor, and personalized service in spades. Classy, romantic restaurants are nice, but flirting with playful dating ideas could help you level up faster in the dating game – the game where it hurts the most to lose! In case you are looking for something to go with you, check out our geek dating sites.

Why You Should Date a Big Girl



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by Vic Corts | 3:54 p.m. | December 29th 2015

Cute BBWThe world doesn’t make it easy on big women to feel attractive. In fact, the world plays a major role in the big girls’ emotional battles of self-acceptance and having high self-esteem. The modeling industry is well-known for years of displaying skinny, anorexic looking models sporting a size 2 or 4 frame, in magazines, billboards, and on runways in fashion shows all over the world. The images of these thin, beautiful women is what has caused many people to believe that this is what you should look like to be beautiful. The truth is, women can be beautiful, no matter their size! Models like Melissa Aronson (known as Emme), Candice Huffine and Dana Elaine Owens, (known as Queen Latifah), have helped to redefine the look of beauty. As the world changes, women are getting bigger. The average woman is now a sexy size 12 and men have plenty of reasons to date these women, and other big beautiful women (BBW) of larger sizes.

Preference

It’s your preference! Do what you wish to do and don’t worry about what other people say. Some men do not prefer to date larger women and this is okay! Everyone has a preference as some men may choose to only date short women, tall women, women with long hair, women of a certain race and even some may prefer to not date women with children. Men who prefer to date big girls love them and would not have it any other way! They love the curvy hips, plump thighs, cushiony stomachs, big breasts, all the qualities that could come with being a voluptuous woman.

Affection

Everybody wants affection. Affection has been shown to reduce tension and stress, and can be a great end to a long hard day at work. Research shows that affection is as equally important to men as it is to women. Big girls are known to be very affectionate and cuddling with them is fun! Big girls have more to hug and more to feel on and squeeze and look forward to showing and receiving affection. Not only does affection help you, being affectionate helps your big and beautiful woman feel the love that she needs for emotional stability.

Personality

Your personality shows who you are. Perhaps this is the greatest quality that people may notice about bigger girls. They tend to have inner beauty that displays through their wonderful personalities! Big girls tend to have openness, a trait that makes them open to new experiences and trying new things, especially new foods. They are willing to go new places, especially with their man. Agreeableness is another personality trait that big girls have which measures the extent of a person’s warmth and kindness. Big girls with agreeableness are more compassionate and trustworthy and dependable. Big girls also tend to be extraverts who are very chatty, happy, and sociable, so they will be nice to bring to parties and family functions. Mature people see personalities as a great asset that far outweigh a person’s looks that overtime will change. Personalities are permanent traits, built into one’s DNA, so you can bet that the magnificent person you met today, will be the same in ten years!

Love for Food

Do you like to eat? Of course you do! Everybody loves to eat! It’s just that some people who love to eat deprive themselves of the things they want to eat in fear of getting fat. So every day they miss out on what they truly love to eat, instead of maybe eating small portions. There are many skinny chics who love to eat food but resort to drastic measures like binge eating and throwing up. Big girls don’t want to throw up their food and they hate to waste food. You don’t ever have to worry about big girls eating a fat-free yogurt cup as a meal and scolding you because you ate a big, fat juicy hamburger. Big girls will eat a hamburger with you. Big girls love to cook, love to go out to eat, love to talk about food, and will love to feed you. Big girls will cook you three meals a day, ensuring that you are well feed.

Fat juicy burger

Inspiration

Have you ever met a big girl who mentioned that she would love to lose weight, but just has a hard time doing so? You can play a large part in helping her. This is your opportunity to help someone accomplish a goal. Big girls would love to work out with someone who can motivate them to look and feel better about themselves, especially her man. You can take her walking outside in the park, around the neighborhood or to the gym. Be sure to let her know that you love her just the way she is, but if she desires to lose weight, you are more than willing to help her.

Loyalty

Big girls unfortunately may not have scores of guys chasing after them. They don’t tend to be head turners, but if you get to know them, you will find out what how great they can be. They are loyal to friends, their boyfriends, and husbands and not constantly looking for the next tall, dark, and handsome man to come into their lives. They are content with being with one person and make great companions physically and emotionally.

Companionship

Women, like men, come in different shapes and sizes and everyone sports their own unique look. If all men preferred small women, then big girls would forever be lonely. Big women need love, romance, companionship and want families as well. Big girls desire to be loved and want to feel beautiful and wanted. Big girls don’t want to sit in the park to simply watch other people strolling by, holding hands and hugging. They want to be at the park with their man having great conversation and alone time.

Confidence

There is nothing more attractive than a confident woman or man. As you sport your beautiful, big woman on your arm, you will be the envy of people who get a chance to see you. They will feel your confidence as you stroll in the park or at the mall or as you eat together. They will respect you and your preference to be with someone unique. They will see you as someone who doesn’t care what people think or say and know that you are happy and satisfied with who you are with. People will know that you are confident with your preference in women and this can help other men began to ponder about giving a big woman a chance. Your girl will also be confident as she will be with her man and skinny chics will wonder what she did to get you. You both will make a statement to everyone and they will know that there is something deeper than the weight issue and they will want to experience it as well.

Online Dating Sites to Meet a BBW

If you are looking to date a BBW, they can be easily found on different dating sites. BBWRomance.com is an online dating website that has a specific site dedicated to big and beautiful singles. If you want to meet a big and beautiful person, this is a great place to start. On this site, BBW can post pictures of themselves and feel comfortable knowing that the men who are viewing their pictures won’t worry about size. This takes the stress out of online dating and women and men can be free. There is a small monthly fee to join the site. Another site to meet BBW is LargeFriends.com. This site is free and easy to use and has many attractive big girls just waiting for that someone special or their ideal match. Chubbybunnie.com is another online dating website that caters to plus size singles. BBWcupid.com specializes in helping big men and women find each other and form lasting friendships or relationships. Again, members can feel free, relaxed, and comfortable as they share pictures of themselves with others who won’t look at them in disgust. After reading this article, men will be able to give a number of reasons why they should date a big, beautiful woman. Everyone has their own preference and men who like big girls are free to date and select whoever they wish as their mate. Big girls have great qualities which can make them great girlfriends or marriage partners. If you wish to find a big, beautiful woman, you can look around your neighborhoods because they are there. However, if you choose to date online, that is wonderful as well, as online dating is a great way to find out about the person to see if they are a perfect match.

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