If we are asked what the most important thing in life is, dating and relationships are going to be the answer for so many people. It is human nature to seek relationships with others. Some may do it for fun and some do it to create a new life.
There are not many people in the world who can give better dating advice than top tier dating coaches. They are professionals possessing masterful skill in dating and flirting with all types of people. Not just that, they are best at interpersonal skills as well as philosophy and sociology.
Because of their knowledge, these dating coaches are well-known for bringing a successful dating life to their clients. Our dating coach for today's interview is Deni Abbie from lovinglife.us. Being a dating coach and a hypnotherapist, she is using an effective approach called “Positive Suggestion Techniques” providing quick results yet persisting benefits to her clients.
Let's hear what she has to say about the life of a dating coach.
What life experience made you decide that you would like to be a dating coach?
My own personal experience of being married for years, and then getting back in the dating arena, initiated my passion to help others navigate the dating world in a healthy successful manner.
I became aware of the many pitfalls of dating and wanted to help educate people on how to date more successfully.
It doesn’t matter if you are 20 and just starting out, or 70 and starting over, it all pertains to understanding key elements to being a smart dater. I knew that I could help people, and wanted to make a difference.
What was your dating life like before you became a coach?
I believe my dating life was very similar to many other’s, I dated based on chemistry, if I met someone I was attracted to I dated them. The problem with this is that chemistry fades and you are left with do I like this person and are we a good match?
How does being a dating coach affect your own love life? Do you apply the same rules and matching techniques to your dating habits?
I trained to become a Coach and started learning about relationships and dating. I did a lot of studying and researching, focusing on making it my expertise. During the process you also learn about yourself and that is key in healthy dating as well as Coaching.
I absolutely use the practices I suggest in my own dating life. If you are not following the advice you give others in your own life, then you do not truly believe it is effective.
What is the most important thing when giving relationship advice to your client?
Honesty is the most important thing you can give your client. You are in a partnership with your client to help them achieve their goals. If you are not completely honest with them you cannot help them.
I believe that everyone has the ability to succeed if they believe in themselves, and, they believe they can succeed. We work together to gain the ability to learn to believe in themselves.
What is the most asked question from your client and why?
“How can I tell if they are the right person for me or not?” People are trying to find out if the person they are going on a date with is ” the one”. They are trying to get past the chemistry and concentrate on how to tell if they are a good fit.
To do this first you need to know exactly what you want before you go on a date and then there are keys to listening and asking questions to find out if they have the qualities you are looking for?
Do you have requirements for you clients?
They have to have the desire to be open to emotional growth and a new thought process; that is all I require.
Is there a specific trait that prevents someone from having a successful relationship?
Emotional Unavailability is the most destructive of all traits in being able to have a successful relationship. There are many traits that are bad (Narcissists, Sociopaths, passive aggressive etc,) but a person that is emotionally unavailable will subconsciously sabotage every relationship they are in and never be aware they are doing it consciously.
How have apps such as Tinder and online dating changed the ways of dating?
Online dating has opened up access so that people are able to have a much larger dating spectrum. You are no longer stuck dating the boy/girl next door.
You can date the person across the city, state or continent. Online dating due to the ease and opportunity is the wave of future dating.
Safety is important when you are online dating; spend time verifying the person you are talking to up front., there are scam artist out there.
If there were one piece of advice you have for singles that are looking for a partner, what would it be?
Be your authentic self from the very start when you meet someone. Know that if this person does not see the value in you, as you are ,they are not the right one for you. You will be fortunate enough to find someone that appreciates all of the wonderful qualities you have to offer.
Never create yourself falsely for somebody, to win his or her affection. If they do not love you for who you are, it is their loss, move on!