If we are asked what the most important thing in life is, dating and relationships are going to be the answer for so many people. It is human nature to seek relationships with others. Some may do it for fun and some do it to create a new life.
There are not many people in the world who can give better dating advice than top tier dating coaches. They are professionals possessing masterful skill in dating and flirting with all types of people. Not just that, they are best at interpersonal skills as well as philosophy and sociology.
Because of their knowledge, these dating coaches are well-known for bringing a successful dating life to their clients. Our dating coach for today's interview is James Preech. He is one of the UK's leading Dating Experts and Dating Coaches. James has been working in the industry for over a decade and is involved in a wide variety of different areas, such as personal dating coaching, Online Dating, singles events, matchmaking and consulting for many dating companies.
James Preece is a regularly featured expert in top UK and international media: such as the Independent, Cosmopolitan, OK Magazine, Men’s Health, Match.com, The Sun, Ann Summers and often appears on radio and television. In addition, he has clients all over the world and is the author of 6 best-selling dating books, including the Amazon Number One best seller "I will Make You Click!"
You can find out more about him via his website: www.jamespreece.com
Let's hear what he has to say about the life of a dating coach.
What life experience made you decide that you would like to be a dating coach?
I used be an actor years ago and helped out hosting singles parties as a way to make extra money. I found I was great at bringing people together and decided to make it a full time career. The events were also a good way to get dates for myself, so I was able to get lots of dating experience at the same time!
What was your dating life like before you became a dating coach?
I dated hundreds of women before I became a dating coach. It was frustrating as I never thought I'd find someone I truly clicked with. However, all that changed when I met my wife. I knew she was the one almost straight away and we've been together for almost nine years now. Once we were together I knew I had to teach everything I knew to others, so I could help them too.
How does being a dating coach affect your own love life? Do you apply the same rules and matching techniques to your own dating habits?
I'm lucky to have a very trusty and understanding wife! I have to be on call for my clients all through the day and night in case they need me. Sometimes, it's almost as if I'm going out on the dates with them. I'm always learning new things from all my clients, so I do try and remember them for my own relationship.
If I tell a client that they should be doing something then I have to make sure it's something I'd be equally happy to do.
What is the most important thing when giving relationship advice to your client?
I think it's important that while I'm always friendly and respectful, they are paying me to tell them the truth. If they have unrealistic expectations or are doing something completely wrong, they I have to put them straight. I think deep down they know what has to be done anyway, but hearing if from a dating expert makes the difference. Once we've worked through this then they will make dramatic progress.
What is the most asked question from your client? And why?
"Where are all the decent men/women hiding?" Despite having so many options, many professional singles are still struggling to meet each other. They might be getting dates, but not with the sort of people they really want to end up with. This can lead to confusion and frustration.
Do you have some requirements for your clients?
I only work with clients who are will to take on board my suggestions and do what I suggest. The good thing is most people only come to me once they've already made the decision to get some help. As long as they agree to follow the plan I put together for them, then we will work together until they see results.
Is there a universal strategy that works for all dating advices?
Every person is different, so I have to plan a new strategy for each person. Of course there are many things that I suggest to clients, such as booking some singles events or joining an online dating site. However, everyone has their own unique dating and life experiences so I have to create something special for each one.
Is there a specific trait that prevents someone from having a successful relationship?
Lack of confidence can seriously damage your chances of having a happy relationship. Unfortunately, this can happen after a bad break up or rejection. The important thing to remember is that everyone is a little shy – but some people can hide it better. I often help people build their confidence and realise how much they have to offer a potential partner.
How have apps such as Tinder and online dating sites changed the way of dating?
They have changed dating completely – both in a good way and also bad too. They have opened up massive opportunities and make it easier than ever to find a partner quickly. The downside is that I believe it's made many singles fussier and more confused that ever. They are spoilt for choice when it comes to choosing both a site/app and when they are looking for a match.
They don't feel they need to invest as much time getting to know someone as there will always be another person ready to meet. This means they are missing out as they aren't giving potential partners long enough to get to know each other.
If there’s one piece of advice you’d have for singles who are looking for a partner, what would it be?
You have to like yourself before you can convince anyone else to like you back. Happiness, confidence and fulfilled lives are attractive qualities and once you have those then you'll find a partner quickly. So work on yourself to make sure you are having a great time and feeling your best. This might mean hitting the gym, buying a new wardrobe or learning some new skills.
If you feel you would like some extra help, then you should definitely seek out a dating coach too!
Our dating coach interview does not end here. Check back our blog next week and read the dating and relationship advice from Mike Goldstein, a top dating coach who always brings the 100% satisfaction to his client. And if you miss our last interview Sheri Maas, do not forget to check it out as well.